Because your subconscious mind controls the way you sleep with your partner , body language at bedtime can be a way that can help you assess what’s going on in your relationship – even if you can’t, you can’t articulate those things. while you’re awake, says Patti Wood, a body language expert with more than 30 years of experience and the author of ” Signs of Success, A Guide to Reading Body Language . “
Of course, there are always exceptions – if you are and have always been a bedtime kicker, you can’t blame your partner for sleeping away from you. But when your partner’s sleeping position suddenly changes, use these clues to figure out what it means:
From “teaspoon”
In this position, your partner wraps you around in such a way that it feels both intimate and secure. Because it is a series of contacts that involve genitalia, it is a very vulnerable position to intimacy, but it says, “I trust you.”
When you are the “big spoon”
This says that you are protective of your partner and maybe even a little possessive.
From separate “spoon”
New couples tend to have the most physical contact in bed, but when the novelty of bed sharing wears off, it is common to return to positions that make you feel more comfortable and produce better quality of sleep, says Paul Rosenblatt, author of ” Two in the bed: the social system of sharing a bed as a couple ” . Sometimes that means “spooning” a few inches apart. It’s like the big spoon saying: “I have you behind, you can count on me”, but it is not as intimate as “spooning” closer.
Your partner cradles your head on his chest
Positions like sleeping on your back indicates confidence and self-assurance. When your partner sleeps on his back, with your head in his arms, he says: “I have the power and I am using it to protect you.” When, in turn, you meet your partner in the fetal position, you show dependence on him. If you sleep with your head on his chest and the rest of your body stretched out, you send the message that you want to make decisions for yourself.
In front of the two
Face-to-face positions are an unconscious attempt to stare at your partner all night. If your partner suddenly starts looking at you, there’s a good chance that he’s either feeling distant and wanting to connect, or is hungry for more intimacy – especially if he presses your pelvis against his.
They sleep on their stomachs
Because sleeping on the stomach protects the front of the body, this is one of the positions that could be a sign of anxiety, vulnerability, and a lack of confidence for intimacy. Unless there are back or neck problems, people tend to be in this position in bed, as they are unwilling or afraid to face their emotions.If your partner suddenly starts sleeping on their stomach, it may flatter to want to feel more protected.
They sleep on opposite sides of the bed
This says that you are independent or have a desire to be more independent. However, positions in bed like this could also be a warning sign that something is not right, perhaps it means stress at work or an unspeakable secret.
That said, many people start by snuggling to warm up or show affection, then gravitate to opposite sides of the bed for a random reason – which could be due to their partner having sharp fingernails, kicking during sleep, or moving too much. , or because they get turned on when they sleep skin to skin.
Also noteworthy is that: Some domestic partners actually get along better when they stop trying to snuggle all night – probably because it can allow them to sleep more soundly and without interruption, improving their interactions the next day.
If you don’t like having contact while you sleep, schedule 15 minutes in the morning or at night to snuggle and in turn strengthen your relationship.
They sleep on their backs but touching their butt
This position suggests that they are a confident couple who appreciate their own space: being behind their backs alludes to the ability and desire to be independent, while a little touch still shows that they want to stay in close contact.
For what it’s worth, many people prefer to sleep like this to avoid face-to-face breathing. So, this is a category of bed positions that could mean that you are sick and tired of your partner’s snoring (not your own partner).
They do not touch anything but the legs and feet
The feet are the most honest part of the body, under the least conscious control. If your partner plays with you with his feet on the bed, it means that he longs for an emotional or intimate connection.
They sleep with their feet and arms intertwined
Positions in bed like this, meaning when you sleep with your arms and legs tangled, is probably a sign that they are not getting enough of each other – even while they sleep. It means that their lives are intertwined, that they function as a pair. They are probably the type to complete their sentences and take care of each other.
They sleep at different distances from the head of the bed
People who sleep closer to the headboard tend to feel more dominant and confident, while those who put their heads further away may be more subservient and have lower self-esteem. Couples who sleep with their heads on the same level are on the same page. The heads that touch are even better: It is a sign that they are very close and know what is happening in the other’s head.