Loneliness is a complex mental and emotional phenomenon based on a powerful emotion that has survival value for children.
Most people may have experienced what is a very short-lived abandonment, but they can still feel the pain it causes and the fear that this feeling of loneliness contains.
How to recognize loneliness and try to overcome it
Loneliness is really a problem that is more related to fear than to the very fact of feeling alone in the world, because it can happen in the middle of a crowd or between people who are talking around us, so we must pay attention to a series of factors that can influence this feeling.
The absence of a loved one
After a couple separation or the lack of a loved one and also other reasons that may arise, a peculiar feeling of loneliness and an emptiness that floods us inside can invade us. With this new way of perceiving life, we must face that feeling of loneliness that is unwanted but that makes us feel that we have been abandoned.
Start by understanding yourself
The first step is to understand what is contributing to your loneliness. Are there any “triggers” that bring the feelings of loneliness and isolation?
Are they influenced by an event? Do you feel worse when the weather is bad? Do you feel trapped in your house? Do you feel anxious seeing others outside? No two people can experience loneliness in the same way and before looking for solutions, you need to understand the problem.
Get out there and explore, even if you go it alone
Another way to deal with loneliness and depression is to go out into the world. Even the simple act of going to the grocery store can help you feel more connected to people and the reality of your surroundings and avoid unwanted loneliness. You should never underestimate the power of the moment and how the outside can influence your emotions and reactions.
So, do something simple. Take a walk around the city. Take the bus to a nearby city. Sit in a cafe and just watch what happens, pretending nothing and letting everything flow. Whatever you do, you simply have to do something that you weren’t doing when you felt lonely.
Doing physical activity
Performing physical activity of any kind will help you stimulate your brain and body to produce hormones that will help you feel good, known as endorphins. You don’t have to join a gym to become fully healthy. Why not try to go out every morning on your bike in the park, learning Tai Chi or trying dance and other exercises?
You should not stress if it takes time to see a positive change in your attitude. Remember that small changes add up over time.