Love in a relationship is essential to be able to sustain the fundamental pillars that people can face in a relationship, however, love is not the only thing that is needed, for that reason many times separation is inevitable, and you must know how to overcome it to move on.

Most people agree that love is the best feeling in the world, nothing compares to finding a partner that not only we love, but he or she feels that same love towards us.

To overcome a couple separation you must put in place a series of mechanisms that allow you to face the situation and have the responsibility to start a new path without guilt , since a couple separation in many cases is a solution and not a penalty.

How to deal with the separation of a couple

But what happens when one of the two no longer feels it? Or when we discover that this person is not only not the person we thought, but is someone who is causing us harm. Or the relationship simply does not work for multiple reasons, this happens very often, separation is one of the most common problems in society, but sometimes it is the only solution.

It may be that one of the two decides that it is better to each take their own path, and that simple someone so important in our lives can leave, making us feel that we have lost everything and in this way we must face the separation of the couple.

How to cope with a couple separation

But all is not lost, there is a life, which we had before meeting this person, that may even be better. In many cases, the separation prepares the person to face the relationship with a more experienced and mature couple, giving themselves another opportunity to experience a more complete love. But how do we begin to rebuild our lives?

First steps after the breakup of the couple

To begin with, it is advisable to remove from sight all those objects that remind us of our former partner. We will always remember it, but it is not necessary to keep objects that perhaps when seeing them cause us anguish, and it is necessary to know how to mark an end, make a before and after to be able to give ourselves the opportunity to grow and overcome the separation.

Every time we remember our relationship we must highlight the good times we lived together, it is useless to hold a grudge towards the other person. Good feelings will help us to overcome the separation of the couple and will free us from the burdens of the past that often stop us from moving towards a better life .

The process of inventing a new path

On the other hand, it is always good to meet new people, although surely we have no need or desire to do so, new relationships will help us in the process of adapting to a new path, which does not have to be accompanied by a new partner, but has more to do with rediscovering ourselves, and when we want to agree we will no longer feel that discomfort product of the emotional emptiness.

It is also advisable to frequent new places, this is part of the process of mourning and conciliation with life that we have regardless of who our travel companion is.

After the separation you should focus on yourself

After the separation it is time to worry about ourselves, do what we always wanted to do and do not encourage ourselves , pamper ourselves and pay attention to our well-being. Before, perhaps we were concerned about the welfare of our partner or both, but now we must do it only for ourselves, and understanding that we must always act in this way, prepare and be happy alone so that we can then give ourselves free to another person and not use it to achieve happiness or well-being.

Encouraging us to make an aesthetic change can make us feel renewed and will also make us care more about our physical appearance, this seems superficial, but we can occupy our mind with what we want as long as that does not harm us.

A separation does not have to be a failure, much less something that takes away our freedom and happiness , on the contrary, the fact of having separated, regardless of the situation that led to it, gives us the opportunity to mature and grow, knowing that couple relationships are made as an agreement between two people who come together to live life in the best way, not to have to endure or forcefully fit in with another.

Discovering it may make us go through not just one, but several separations, but it is positive to know that it can be overcome, and that it is necessary when both of you can no longer live together.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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