Although there is no magic secret to achieve this, a specialist and consultant, tries to give some clear examples to improve the quality of our affective relationships. He states that his experience has made him notice that happy couples tend to have certain habits that contribute to their well-being and health .
1. They go to bed at the same time
According to Goulston, happy couples often resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. “They go to bed at the same time , even if one of them gets up later to do things while their partner sleeps,” he says, adding that “when they touch their skin they still feel a little tingling.
2. They cultivate common interests
When passion lowers, it is common for couples to find they have few interests in common. Therefore, we must not downplay the activities that they can develop and enjoy together, says the expert.
” If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them, ” he says, also recommending having separate activities, so that the relationship does not become too dependent.
3. They walk hand in hand or side by side
Rather than one of the two lagging behind because he walks slower or stops to see something, Goulston recommends walking comfortably next to the couple, and even better if they hold hands. If you want to stop and observe something, it is better to do it together, or you lose the sense of company.
4. They trust and forgive
In routine disagreements or arguments that go unresolved, happy couples don’t burn out , forgive each other, and trust each other, rather than holding a grudge and reluctantly staying in the relationship.
5. They focus more on what their partner does right than what they do wrong.
If you start looking for bad things in your partner, you will always find something. If you do the opposite, that is, you look for the good, you will also find things. “It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive ”, says the expert.
6. They hug each other when they meet again after work or activities
“Our skin has a memory of” good caresses “(love),” bad caresses “(abuse) and” no caresses “(carelessness). Couples who greet each other with hugs keep their skin bathed in “good caresses,” says Mark.
7. They say “I love you” and “have a nice day” every morning
It is a way to cultivate patience and tolerance, as it is a good way to start a day that brings problems, difficulties and other annoyances that could occur at work.
8. They say “Good night” every night, regardless of how they feel.
“This tells your partner that no matter how bad you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is greater than any disturbing incident, “explains the psychiatrist.
9. They call or send a short message to their partner during the day
Calling or texting asking how each other’s day is going is a habit of happy couples, says Goulston. It helps to maintain complicity and connection even when they are not seeing each other, and allows them to be more in tune when they see each other after work. You can tell if your partner is having a horrible day or had a great achievement that they can share when they meet again.
10. They are proud to be with their partner
Happy couples like to see each other together and when they are in public they tend to shake hands , put their hand on the other’s shoulder, back or knee, etc. They show the connection that exists between them, sometimes without realizing it.
Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.
