Many times it happens to us that we adapt to something that does not make us happy , such as someone who hides in a well just because he thinks that is his size, and very soon discovers that he cannot walk, run or fly. Happiness should not therefore oppress us, nor suffocate us, but should allow us to be free, it should serve as a guide and as a light that illuminates our own path.

“Happiness is a matter of keeping yourself busy”

We adapt to feel safe

We could almost say with certainty that many of us adapt to our daily routines , aware that they do not make us happy, such as wearing the same brand of shoes, even if they give us blisters. It’s like being on a Ferris wheel that never stops turning. The world and life below, excited and perfect, continue to happen, inaccessible and joyous, while we cautiously remain in our routine.

When we were children, our parents would tie our shoes in a double knot so that they would not come untied, causing us to stumble and fall. They tucked us in very carefully, they closed our jackets all the way so that we do not get cold and we are more protected.

There were many times when we felt uncomfortable with all that body pressure, but what made us feel was safety. As we age and acquire adult responsibilities, the need to feel safe remains with us. However, the indefinable tendency to seek safety continues, and often drives our behavior directly by our conscience.

Adapting ensures survival

Oddly enough, the simplest way to address this need is with our brain. Our brain does not like change , risk, and much less threats. It is what whispers us to ” adapt even though we are not happy, because security guarantees survival “. However, and we must be very clear about this, adaptation does not always go hand in hand with happiness.

There are those who stay in a relationship even if there is no love, without a relationship of trust, much less happiness. For some, the most important thing is to escape from loneliness and for this they do not hesitate to adapt to a life that, although it is not loving or happy, keeps them safe.

The same is true at the secular level. Many people choose to keep their heads down. Someone docile, manageable, someone who lowers his skills and education when preparing his resume, because he knows that it is the only way to adapt to the hierarchy of the company.

It is as if we are programmed to survive at any cost, without having to cost us happiness or the sense of exploring new paths. However, change cannot occur without the irrepressible desire to achieve something better, and for this it is necessary to be very clear about what kind of situation we have adapted to, and what would be the true benefits of challenging ourselves to discover the happiness.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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