Acceptance of volatility
Nothing is given to us permanently. We will continue going up and down, waving and saying goodbye, starting and ending. If nothing can remain with us, are we completely defenseless against impermanence? Not really. We can accept the volatility that everything in our lives has. You can acquire the ability not to rebel against impermanence.
Are changes a necessary evil? It depends on how we tackle them ourselves. It is natural for the unknown to cause us stress or fear. But these feelings also mobilize us to act.
A new life often begins not with a change of environment, but with a change in perspective . Not that something big has to happen for everything to change. Usually these are small details that irrevocably involve later transformations.
It should also be emphasized that change is a lifeline thrown by fate to people who are dissatisfied with the current situation . In this context, volatility is the engine of development. Firing may be treated as a personal failure, but it is also an opportunity to improve your situation.
Why would you be looking for another job, theoretically better, if not for the termination of your contract from above? The departure of a lifelong partner can cause a crisis. But it can also be a turning point in your life.
The end of one is the beginning of another
In the place of the “old”, the “new” and fresh appears, the unknown. You can start from scratch without making mistakes. We enter a new chapter with a blank sheet of paper and it is up to us what we write. Changes are not just threats, but above all opportunities.
However, before adapting to the new state of things, we must go some way. In a simplified way, it can be described in three points:
- Introduction of changes : this stage is characterized by agitation, often excitement and joy. We are motivated to act.
- Crisis: sometimes it comes slowly, sometimes violently. It is increasingly difficult to mobilize to take action. The energy that you had in the beginning is leaking somewhere. The belief in success also diminishes. Many people drop their goals at this point. However, when we manage to survive a temporary crisis, we move to the last stage.
- Habit: this stage is characterized in that what you do becomes automatic or that it gives you so much pleasure that you cannot live without it. A habit is coming. The “new” adapts to the “old” and everything changes.
Going through the crisis stage is natural. This can be compared to the stage of adolescence. It takes time to adjust to changes. This is why you have to be patient and understanding with yourself.
How to deal with the change?
“Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead, let yourself go. And don’t worry if things get turned upside down sometimes. How do you know that this place you are used to is better than the one that awaits you? ” – These words from Elif Şafak are a great sign.
Here are some tips that can help you get through your stage of change:
- Accept volatility : Acceptance is the first step towards adaptation.
- Reassure yourself : this is probably not the first time (or the last) you’ve had trouble with unintended changes. The more you give in to them, the easier it will be to deal with them.
- Find Areas You Can Control – Feeling in control increases your sense of security.
- Think positively about change – even if you see more cons than pros, the end result may positively surprise you.
- Seek support from your support network : The support network is invaluable in the process of change, especially in times of crisis.
- Make changes at your own pace : Of course, if possible. You don’t have to turn your entire life 180 degrees right away.
- Allow yourself to feel emotions, especially negative ones : The process of making changes is associated with emotional experiences, not necessarily pleasant ones. The dips in mood will appear at the least desired time, making it difficult to cope with the changes. Therefore, allow yourself to experience emotions on a regular basis. Give yourself the right to be angry, scared, scared, sad.