As we go through life, we all learn and grow – and so do our friends. It is important that, as we continue to evolve into a better version of who we can be, we surround ourselves with supportive friends. We do not need support in the space where we once were, but where we are now and where we are going. Due to the changes we make, it might be time to evaluate our friendships and determine which ones still serve us. Here are the 5 types of friends that no one needs in their life.

5 types of “friends” you don’t need in your life

If you want to evolve, these are the 5 types of friends you should consider never having. Does it sound familiar to you?

The one who always complains

It is exhausting living in the world of a complainer. Something is always wrong, out of place at incredibly high levels. When we spend too much time with a complainer, it’s easy to start complaining too.

In fact, a recent study of college roommates found that, over the course of the school year, students who began the year in a positive frame of mind developed more negative thought patterns when living with a negative roommate. .

The problem with keeping these types of chronic complaining friends in your life is that there is nothing you can do to help them see the problem. They tend not to see themselves as complainers, and are resistant to positive support or counseling. The chronic complainer is happiest when the glass is empty.

The pessimist

The opponents are all around us. Regardless of the suggestion, idea or goal, the negative automatically responds with “no” and a list of reasons why, whether it is an acquaintance, a friend, or even a family, opponents live in a constant state of “No” and a list of reasons why.

The hard part is figuring out who this type of person is and who has our best interest at heart. The first step is to be aware that there is such a thing as “pessimistic person syndrome.”

Pessimistic / negative / detractor syndrome is the act of verbalizing fears rather than expressing genuine concerns about another person and their situation. Once we know it exists, we can begin to determine who needs help.

Pessimists like that are only afraid. They do not understand how we do what we do, because they are very afraid of taking risks. If you spend a lot of time around people like this, you will soon find yourself with the pessimistic person syndrome.

The one who always doubts about everything

These types of “friends” are even worse than negative pessimists because they seem to be supportive, but they are undermining our efforts by creating doubts in our abilities.

The biggest cause of setbacks, failures, or abandonment is self-doubt. We start a project with the belief that we can do it, that we will be successful and that if we cannot do something we will solve it.

Doubters lurk around missteps and hover to quickly point out what went wrong and why it’s better to give up. What’s dangerous is that they do it in a way that appears to be supportive, but is actually attacking our character, drive, and ambition.

Keep skeptics at bay and surround yourself with friends who believe in you more than you believe in yourself.

The boastful kind of friend

We dislike bragging excessively, yet when we are proud of an achievement, we share it with our friends. The occasional exchange of personal achievements is normal, but when it is extreme, it can be draining on a relationship.

The constant need to show off is often an indication of low self-esteem. While it is necessary to provide support to our friends, we cannot provide the attention that the conceited braggart needs to feel worthy of our friendship. They need to find that within themselves.

Our role as a friend is to help them by supporting them, but not getting caught up in the need to constantly reassure them. If you find yourself paying too much attention to someone else’s accomplishments rather than your own, it might be the right time to remove them from your friendships.

The egocentric

The kind of friend who is self-centered is the one who places importance on posting a picture on Instagram, answering the phone in the middle of a conversation, interrupting someone when they’re talking, and all kinds of disrespectful behavior in front of you.

A relationship with such a person can often make you feel insignificant, like you don’t matter, because of their behaviors. We must surround ourselves with people who appear and remain in the present moment with us.

We’ve all acted a bit like this at one point or another, but when it’s a constant and a lifestyle of the person, you would have to start doubting the importance of your relationship.

We all need different kinds of friends to serve us and whom we can serve . When you surround yourself with people who bring different attributes to the table, their lives and ours are made richer through shared experiences.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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