It is common to find throughout our lives people who constantly block themselves because of fear . We can find this to a certain extent in each one of us: fear is free, natural and typical of anyone who faces challenges of living. However, when this is an obstacle, we must learn to lose it and begin to live more fully .

How to start losing the fear of living

In this sense, it is important that fear is assumed as another emotion , that a specific weight is attributed to it according to the circumstances and that from one moment to another we let it go. Staying stuck in fear is one of the worst mistakes that can be made : it paralyzes, disables any chance of improvement or exit, and then curls itself in a tangle of regret. If you want to start living, you need to lose fear and see beyond your head .

Being afraid of the unknown can be of great help, since it puts us on alert and helps us protect ourselves, but when that fear becomes a limit and does not allow us to have personal challenges to overcome, we must then think if it is a fear useful or not.

The useful and the useless fear

The fear is a feeling rooted in the most profound of our brains: the reptilian brain or primary, is the first and oldest brain formations. These include the most elementary sensations, associated with basic needs such as hunger, thirst and reproduction. Fear is, in principle, an alert in order to protect us from a danger that is perceived as imminent.

However, the context in which we operate does not have predators on every corner, ready to devour us, as our brain makes us think. However, in that sense it is very useful to protect ourselves from physical threats in contexts that require it to live. On the other hand, fear becomes useless when the source of all dangers is the mind itself and all our paralysis responds to a wrong interpretation of reality. The feeling of fear then becomes an obstacle rather than a tool.

Go out to live

To release ourselves from this overwhelming sense of unease, there is a simple trick. Instead of saying ” I’m scared ” change it to ” I would like to .” When preparing a phrase “I’m afraid to ask for a loan” can be changed to “I would like to request a loan to take a trip to India.” Such modification in language makes us think positive and reduces stagnation by focusing on the goal rather than the obstacles. Living without fear is impossible , but reducing the feeling if it is and even more so starting to dare to challenge ourselves.

Focusing on fear cannot help you overcome it, the right way is to change the way we see our own challenges through fear. When we get a different look, it is when we can focus outside of fear and be able to see other possibilities, without stopping taking precautions, but without having useless barriers that prevent us from living.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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