Being single is nothing to be afraid of. In 2014, single people of all ages, races, and genders made up more than 50 percent of the entire population in the U.S. alone.But despite the fact that single people make up more of the population than married people, many misconceptions still remain. surround the idea of ​​flying alone, especially as you begin to approach retirement age.

Things no one tells you about being single over 40

We all know a single man or woman over 40, and you do not need to be an expert to know more or less the life that surrounds them living like this, and it is just what most see in them that has made us list the following things that distinguish them. Do you think that being single is being a lonely “stay”? Well, just the list below will tell you the opposite, this is our spoiler alert before reading.

It’s better for your BMI

When the Swiss and German researchers analyzed married and unmarried individuals, they found that, while paired people were more likely to eat better, they also had a higher BMI (Body Mass Index) than their single counterparts , with a difference equivalent to about 2 kilos. While this may seem like an insignificant number, high BMI has been linked to health complications like type 2 diabetes and heart disease, so every percentage counts in the long run.

Dating gives you a chance to meet new people

Meeting new people becomes a challenge when you reach 40 years old. However, one of the benefits of being single is that when you date multiple new people each week, you are inadvertently expanding your social network. And even if you don’t meet the man or woman of your dreams, you could end up becoming a new best friend.

You have fewer financial burdens

Being married is expensive. Once you join, you not only have to take care of yourself, but also your spouse (and possibly even your children), and those extra mouths to feed and provide can start to add up. One analysis even found that while 27 percent of married couples with children and 36 percent of married couples without children have credit debts, only 21 percent of single people owe money to their credit card companies. .

You have more flexibility to fall in love

When you’re younger, things like finances and family tend to decide where you settle and who you associate with. However, these things are not so much of a problem after 40, as you have already established your career and what area you will live in and how you will raise your children is not as important as finding someone you can enjoy your time with.

You can enjoy the company of several people

Being single means you can have the person you have long and meaningful conversations with, [then] one you dance with, one you cook with together, one you travel with, do you get the idea?

It gives you time to nurture your other relationships

According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships , single people are more sociable than married people and are more likely to stay in touch and offer help to friends and family. With so many fruitful friendships, who needs a romantic relationship anyway?

Your happiness does not depend on someone else

When you are single, you have the most flexibility to create your happiness. You have to build your life to promote your happiness, and the trick is to help people understand that your relationship status doesn’t really make you happy (but a bad marriage or relationship can make you miserable).

You are more philanthropic than your married friends

When sociologist Eric Klinenberg wrote a book, called Going Solo, on the lives of single individuals, one of the things he discovered was that those who are single are more likely than those who are married to volunteer with charities.

You are more motivated to stay in shape

When you are single, you have more free time to devote to your hobbies and self-care activities. Eating healthier, exercising, and taking fitness classes can all be done because your schedule isn’t that tight. In fact, research published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that, over the course of two weeks, single men spent an average of just over 8 hours in the gym, while married men only hit the gym for 4. hours and 47 minutes.

You don’t have to suffer uncomfortable intimate encounters

Going out as a 20-year-old and a 50-year-old are not the same. Sure, both scenarios require dating and meeting new people, but while your 20s are looking to explore and meet your likes and dislikes, your 50s is more about finding a person who can satisfy you.

As we age, we have the opportunity to become familiar with our body and its responses to pleasure. You are less likely to stumble into unsatisfying intimate encounters without saying anything or having an idea of ​​how to improve it.

You are only legally responsible for yourself

A marriage license is a legally binding contract, and that is not taken lightly in the eyes of the law. When someone says “I do” at the altar, they also accept responsibility for their partner’s possible crimes and debts, even if they are not responsible for them in any way. But as a single person, you only have to worry about your own mistakes, so no secret credit card debt or hidden lawsuits will creep up on you.

You have more time to enjoy the things you love

When you are in a relationship, the way you spend your free time is generally dictated by the schedules of your spouse and children. However, when you’re single, your free time is completely yours, so much so that, in fact, a 2015 investigation from the Bureau of Labor Statistics found that while married people only spent an average of 4.87 hours per day on relaxing activities , single women were able to allocate 5.56 hours to their hobbies.

You work less

Although the reason is not clear, a study conducted by the Institute for Family Studies found that men, between the ages of 44 and 46, work 403 fewer hours per year when not in a relationship. (One theory: married men need to work longer hours to support their families.)

You sleep more

Getting the bed for yourself only comes with its fair share of benefits. According to a survey, single people get an average of 7.13 hours of sleep per night, compared to married people who only get 6.71 hours.

And the best

Not only do single men and women sleep more, they sleep more soundly as well. When you’re single, you determine the temperature, the type of covers, the level of darkness, the side you want to sleep on, and the time you wake up in the morning. There is no snoring, shuffling, sneezing, coughing, or early morning running to disturb your sleep.

Last minute vacations are totally acceptable

Because you are not committed, you have the freedom to do anything at any time. Do you want to take that trip to Paris you’ve been dreaming of? Feel like taking a few days off from work for a solo weekend? The world is your oyster, and there is not a soul in the world that can tell you otherwise.

You don’t have to compromise

The best thing about being single is freedom. You have the opportunity to do what you want, how you want, when you want. Relationships require commitment and sacrifice. Say goodbye to the obligation to watch Sunday football again!

You can say yes to crazy proposals in your work

When you’re part of a relationship, you can’t just accept a dream job proposal across the country or even around the world without consulting your partner first. Sure, your partner might be willing to work out small details to make it work, but none of that matters when you’re single, because you only have to worry about yourself.

Many people reject or put on hold for good opportunities because of relationships and then later regret it when they don’t have a new opportunity or their life just doesn’t allow it anymore.

You have full control over your finances

As a single adult, all the money in your bank account is yours, and you have no one to answer to or consult with other than finances. Plus, by the time you’re 40 or older, you’ve likely achieved a workplace and financial stability, and you have more than a right to focus on yourself from time to time.

You spend less time cleaning

Although you would think couples would spend less time cleaning because they have twice as many hands to help around the house, a study by the National Science Foundation found that married men and women spend more time cleaning on average than their single counterparts. .

You don’t have to deal with relationship stress

Every relationship has its fair share of problems, and those problems have psychological consequences that single people don’t have to worry about. For example, a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that marital conflict was directly related to increased depression, particularly in older adults.

Being single allows you to live wherever you want

If you’ve always wanted to try living in Europe for a few years, now, as long as you’re single and completely independent, would be the perfect time to do so. The only thing that can stop you: the visa process (and other logistics).

You can get out of your comfort zone

Relationships are often defined by routine, making it difficult for the people in them to try new things or venture outside of their comfort zones. However, when you are not important, there is no such thing as having to feel too comfortable, and being single over 40 gives you a chance to go crazy.

You are more generous when you are single

When social scientist Bella DePaulo, PhD, surveyed thousands of Americans for her book Singled Out, she found that men gave their friends an average of $ 1,875 less when they were married compared to when they were alone.

You feel more comfortable in your own skin

Although being single in your 20s and 30s is an often stressful scenario that requires extensive maintenance and grooming, everything changes as you get older. Once you’ve reached your 40s and older, you stop trying to fit into a cookie cutter. You know and accept yourself in your 40s and feel comfortable with your style, without imitating what the media tells us we should have.

It is not necessarily lonely …

It is wrong to assume that someone is lonely because they are single. In contrast, single people are often better adapted to dealing with difficult issues alone or with friends, while people who are used to being in a relationship don’t know how to be satisfied without a supportive partner.

… But people will treat you as they are.

Don’t be surprised when your partner friends start treating you like being single is a bad thing. People who are not single do not understand that it is possible to be happy without a partner, but instead of getting angry with their friends for their assumptions, just ignore them, because you know that you are happy that way and that is what matters.

Even in your later years, you continue to grow as a person

Being single allows you to grow the way you want and at the rate you want by trying different things. You can change your focus, your desires, and your path many times without worrying about who you affect. One example: When researchers at the University of Wisconsin at Madison analyzed survey data, they concluded that “singles fared better than married ones.” In areas such as personal growth, independence, and learning.

You have a lot of personal space

One of the main differences between being married after 40 and being single after 40? Personal space. Single people spend a lot of quality time with friends and family, but at the end of the day, they can decide when enough is enough, at which point they can retire to their quiet oasis of home. It’s a win-win!

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want

Without a spouse in your life dragging you to dreaded office parties or other social gatherings, you never have to worry about ending up somewhere you don’t want to be.

Many other people are single, too

According to data from the Ministry of Single Adults , in 2014 there were more single people living in the United States than married. And more specifically, roughly 39 percent of all individuals over the age of 45 were single in 2012, compared to 30 percent in 1960.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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