In life we have good experiences, as well as others that are not so good, and these sometimes can cause unpleasant feelings that are difficult to digest to form in people’s hearts.
What does resentment mean?
This feeling does not allow people to achieve an emotional advance in their life, since those negative situations will always remain, feeling a constant anger or disgust to the point of turning into resentment.
That is why, if what you want is to move forward in peace and in the future, you must take measures that allow you to root out resentment from your life. The first thing you should do is identify the cause of the resentment, recognize the situation that causes you pain and anger.
Believe it or not, resentment ties you to the person you feel has offended you or caused you harm, resentment is a difficult knot to untie, if you let the days go by, and you don’t give yourself the time to give yourself the opportunity to find the solution that frees you, the time will come when you will have a tangle of confronted feelings that will not allow you to clear your horizon.
It is undeniable that, on many occasions, it can be felt that for certain people there is no forgiveness, perhaps you feel that the damage caused was enormous and this person does not deserve your forgiveness, without realizing that the main and only affected person is you.
That is why, even if you refuse, you must break the heavy chain of resentment and give yourself the opportunity to experience the wonderful pleasure of freedom.
So, it’s time to learn the strategies that will help you free yourself from the ruthless resentment that grabs you, drags you down, and makes you a prisoner of hatred.
Steps to ending resentment
1) The most important step that will allow you to move towards forgiveness is to acknowledge, accept that you feel resentment, resentment and maybe even hate
2) Stop playing the victim, if someone offended you or you feel that they humiliated you, get up and move on, there is still much to experience and people to meet.
3) Avoid bringing to your memory that memory or that person who caused an offense in you, keep in mind that the offense will no longer be erased from your past, but you do have the power to eliminate it from your future.
4) Keep in mind that resentment does not come alone, it is accompanied by pain, anger and frustration, and these feelings are the breeding ground for diseases, that is, resentment will end up harming your health. Thus begins a psychosomatic illness.
5) Do not stress, let go of resentment, walk, exercise, read a book, climb a mountain, enjoy a walk, feel free to do activities that clear your mind and unpleasant feelings.
6) Do not think only about the bad thing that happened to you, bring to your memory the good memories, the people important to you, which, you deprive yourself of enjoying because you are upset and bitter about things that are part of the past.
7) Dare, write a letter to that person, in which you expose everything you feel and how bad he made you feel, then grant him forgiveness, and forgive yourself for having lost so much in so little.
8) Feed your self-esteem, remember that offenses take effect when our self-esteem is vulnerable, love yourself, value yourself and understand that people will harm you only if you allow it.
9) Tell someone you trust about the situation you are going through, sometimes being listened to allows you to free yourself from a great weight that you are not able to carry alone.
10) Finally, but not least, remember that on many occasions we also offend, or someone could feel that we offended them, then no one is exempt. Forgive and you will receive forgiveness “remember that from what you sow, you will reap.”