Fear of commitment can occur for various reasons, however the origin of fear is not a negative sign, but rather suggests that we are protecting ourselves from something, and this is the point where we must look carefully, in order to get to the root of our prejudices, limitations and thoughts about relationships.

Although the fear of commitment can have many reasons and backgrounds, there is a psychological pathology that rejects commitment and avoids it at all costs and many times without solving these underlying problems, due to social and cultural pressure, people feel isolated from the world and society, and they look for a way to connect with someone without compromising.

The fear of commitment and its signs

That is why we have made an interesting list of the signs that a person who is afraid of commitment can give so that you can know who you are with or realize if you are afraid of commitment .

Very bad communication

Months, maybe years, have passed and you can’t express your feelings , your partner has already told you that he loves you, but it’s hard for you to say it, and not because you don’t feel it, but because you simply know that it will take you to another level of commitment by that you do not want to arrive.

Being afraid of not making a profit but a loss

As no one can guarantee that a relationship is not going to make us go through challenges and certain learning moments, which can be hard and difficult, and that the gains will be much greater than the losses, you can prefer not to risk, thinking that of That way you ensure a fuller life, without anyone who can take you out of your comfort zone.

You always put your personal goals as a pretext

College is first, then your career, then your job. You always find a pretext related to your personal development to avoid commitment , and so the years go by. This is another of the signs of a deep fear of commitment, or at least of maintaining a relationship to try to go further.

You never have time

It is usual to evade the commitment with the pretext of lack of time , which suspiciously you never have to dedicate to your partner, an ideal pretext to say that now that you are not yet married or do not live together you do not have time, much less you can have it for a more serious commitment.

The future is uncertain

Perhaps not everyone plans their future with so much advance or detail, but when commitment is evaded, the future is always alone and without commitment. If you have a partner and you wonder how you see yourself in 5 years, and the answer is only, it is that the commitment was never in your plans.

Everything else besides your relationship is more important

When your relationship is always in the background, you never see it as a priority, you feel that it is something temporary or that it is unimportant; it is obvious that commitment is almost a utopia you never thought you would get to. This can happen because this is not really the right person for you or you are not the right person for them, but it can also be a clear sign that you do not take things very seriously and the fear of commitment can make you take everything to heart. light .

You don’t like to make plans

It is not that you are the “king of spontaneity” when you hate making plans for the future, like thinking about summer on the beach with your partner in spring, or thinking about the vacation trip “together.” Most likely, the future “together” does not exist for you, since it implies a commitment that you may not dare to carry out.

You have addictions

Several studies have determined that a large part of the people who are afraid of commitment tend to have some type of addiction that does not allow them to formalize . These can be controllable addictions such as addiction to work, tobacco and even alcohol; and more dangerous like addiction to some kind of drug.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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