Without self-respect our lives become empty and meaningless. Why? Because respecting yourself will form the basis of the life you build. When that foundation is missing, we have nothing to build on. Self-respect influences your relationships, your career, your vision of yourself; practically everything. Sadly, a lot of people don’t have a lot of self-respect. This comes from not having a very good relationship with themselves, but luckily, everyone can learn how to love and honor themselves by changing their thought patterns.

5 things that happen when you start respecting yourself

If you don’t have much motivation for that, maybe we can convince you to start with these life-changing things that happen when you respect yourself.

1. You learn self-love, too

Self-love and self-respect go hand in hand . People who have more self-respect tend to have better self-esteem, which translates to more love for themselves. Learning to like and love yourself has profound implications for your life. For one thing, you won’t tolerate anything or anyone who doesn’t love you just the way you are.

You will no longer invite toxic friendships or relationships into your life, because the level of respect you have for yourself will not allow it. You won’t indulge in bad diet choices because you just want to put loving things on your body. You won’t take a job that you hate because that means you don’t love or respect yourself enough to do something that you really enjoy. The list goes on and on, but the point is that self-respect paves the way for self-love, and armed with both, your life will flourish like never before.

2. You will learn to want to be alone when you have self respect

People who don’t respect themselves generally don’t like loneliness because that means being alone with their own thoughts and feelings, and this terrifies them. Why? Well, if you don’t have a lot of self-respect, you probably don’t like yourself too much and allow a lot of negative self-talk. However, when you respect and love yourself, you will practice positive self-talk and engage in more loving behaviors, which means that you will really look forward to the alone time.

3. You won’t care what other people think

People with low self-esteem and self-respect tend to look to others for acceptance. However, when you improve your view of yourself, all that will change. Instead of looking externally for a sense of belonging, you will find it within. You will feel comfortable in your own skin because you will realize that only your opinion about yourself matters. Taking care of what others think and seeking their approval creates a prison in your mind. However, relying on yourself for those feelings creates release.

4. The world will look a little brighter when you start to respect yourself.

When you have a negative view of yourself, you also have a rather bleak view of the world around you. Your thoughts dictate your reality, so everything you see in yourself will spread into your life as well. Therefore, by respecting and loving yourself, you will learn to have a more positive outlook, which will help you have more optimism about yourself and your world. People with little self-respect tend to see a glass as half empty , but they will begin to see it as half full. This attitude will also help you overcome obstacles and challenges in life much more effectively.

5. You won’t like the comfort zone anymore

For most people, the world seems quite scary, so they hide inside their covers to avoid anything uncomfortable. However, what they don’t see is that much of this discomfort originates from within. They don’t trust or love enough to see that they have all the necessary tools to create a life that looks good to them. However, self-respecting people are confident in their abilities and love to push the limit to test their limits. They know that self-imposed limits only hold them back.

Final thoughts

Sadly, too many people feel inadequate or inferior, and these beliefs hold them back a great deal. It seems difficult to change the thought patterns and behaviors that have been learned, but in reality, all it takes is persistence and determination. No one can decide your self esteem but you, so remember this as you travel through life. Having respect for yourself can literally change your life if you are willing to do the work to get there.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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