The path in a couple relationship is a path of self-love , of mutual love when the first point has been used, and of unconditional love when the other has been accepted as they are, after the fire of falling in love or illusion. it becomes the breaststroke in which love burns. When what the illusion made me believe I found in you, has dissolved, and I can see you in truth. With what is of you, and not what I think I see in me of you.

There are so many points to mention, but I want at this point to refer to this one in particular, by allowing the other human being to be .

I want you to know about me what you do not like, that you know it, and accept it without trying to change it. In this way, it will be the only way to approach without fictions and it is at that moment when I can really begin to be with you, with that being that is, that has stopped being a sketch and that has undressed to be in contact with my soul , in a real way, in a mature way, deeply.

This is a beautiful reflection to understand a little more what “loving without fiction” is about, to really fall in love with who we are.

To complement this reflection, we can return to the concept of an author and psychologist who has been able to give a meaningful explanation to this process of truly loving. You can find out below:

“Thinking that love will save us, that it will solve all our problems and provide us with a continuous state of bliss or security, only keeps us mired in fantasies and illusions and weakens the true power of love, which is the power to transform us.”

Learning to love without fictions implies that we are able to go to the next level in our relationship , turn the page, leave the fictions that appear in the stage of infatuation and begin to accept reality, accept that the person who falls in love with us is real and imperfect like us. Only from that moment can we begin one of the most complex stages in the relationship that can truly build a true and lasting relationship.

“One of the essential aspects of seeing the other, so far from our ideal and distant from what was our initial image, is our own inability to accept in ourselves something of what we criticize.”

If you want to transcend in your relationship with your partner, which is the type of relationship where you can see this aspect of fiction the most, it is necessary that you begin to show who you are, the first fiction to be broken is that of yourself and lose the fear of not being accepted.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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