In this world we are constantly being judged, and judgments are sometimes as destructive as any disease. We have all experienced the weight of a judgment, and we have suffered the penalty of a social sentence. At times, we have lost friends, broken relationships, escaped from somewhere.

Judging others, a critical social profession

The truth is that there are people who are ex officio or critical social judges , and in fact, for them to judge others is a very easy matter . How many people have you not heard out there say: “that happened to her because she did not know how to take her place, she is an easy woman”, or things like that?

What you did not know is that the people who make these kinds of judgments hide a very harsh reality, of dissatisfaction with the things that they have not been able to achieve in their lives , the gaps they find and the goals and objectives failed. This makes them focus their judgment outside of them avoiding contact with their own reality, pain and bitterness. His heart has been blackened from waiting so long without the changes coming.

Judging others can reveal that you are a frustrated person

Social judges tend to associate with people who feel frustrated with their lives; perhaps they expected more for their efforts or more brilliant things, and have been left in the enchantment of living with a situation that does not fulfill them at all .

Once they have entered that state, a negative and sad feeling takes over their lives and they begin to see in other people’s lives things that should be destroyed, and what better weapon of destruction than a trial? They are not really bad people and they tend to be confused, this is an unconscious condition, it could be very helpful if we could collaborate so that they realized the situation and began to apply measures in their lives instead of becoming judges as well.

Characteristics of the so-called criticones

There are some characteristics that are present in social judges , these characteristics reveal their degree of dissatisfaction with life and their frustration.

  • They never see the positive side of things , no matter how hard we try, they will always see the bad things in the situation.
  • They will constantly look for fault in others to defend their weaknesses. It is not possible to beat their judgments once they have sentenced.
  • They never spontaneously speak of happy moments . Their conversation focuses on the lives of others in problems, and it is difficult for them to recall happy moments in their lives.
  • They boast of their few achievements and diminish those of others, by diminishing the achievements of others they increase the brightness of their own.
  • Their success has cost them an enormous amount of effort, that of others has been a matter of luck.
  • They have very strong moral values ​​and their judgments are generally very harsh . Listening to them talk about other people and their compartments helps us to establish that their morality is usually very strict towards others.
  • They do not develop empathy , they do not distinguish the suffering of others, they do not feel affected by the things that their comments generate in others.
  • They devalue the sufferings of other people, and exalt their own. Your sufferings in life will always be greater than those of other people.
  • Their criticisms and judgments represent the longing to experience what life has denied them or they have not been able to achieve. They will become more critical if the area where they make their judgment is one in which their life has presented the most blows.
  • They consider that the best way to stand out is by turning off the brightness of other people.
  • They generally establish strong alliances with few people and flee from large groups.

The frustrated person’s behavior can become disorganized and aggressive unless troubleshooting is attempted. A person who criticizes a lot or tends to judge others is a frustrated person and can be an unhappy person if he does not lower his pretensions or if he does not direct his desire towards other goals .

This hatred can increase and become constant and become bitterness, and that is where the judgments and discrimination begin, in some way, if not enough attention is paid, they become very destructive personalities in an unconscious way.

If the person reconsiders and becomes aware that, judging others, criticizing people or situations all the time, brings frustration and unhappiness, it may be subject to change and therefore, heal that part that needs to be healed in order to resume a path that allows you to flow with your life and with that of others without judgments that leave bitterness.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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