Shyness is considered a behavior or a state of mind that harms the social environment of the individual who suffers from it. Shyness is not considered a disease and in some cases it is overcome with time, experience and social development. However, there are some simple ways to overcome shyness or social phobia .


Being shy or a bit embarrassed can close many doors for you , or it can even prevent certain challenges from being relegated, which cause problems in the social development of the individual, which is why it is so necessary to overcome shyness, overcoming this behavior can make you live more fully and get to express yourself and show who you really are. Any shy person knows this, so the important thing is to know how shyness can be overcome.

How to overcome shyness

Nothing better than experience to be able to master shyness , because believe it or not, the vast majority of people are shy by nature, although some may know how to hide it better than others, this is a way that we have found to keep ourselves safe, in the wrong way, but it is a strategy at the end of the day, not a disability or a disease, as we have already mentioned.

Attack the root problem

Experts agree that it is much easier to overcome shyness if we can know the reason for it . Shyness is often a response to a trauma or some psychological problem that we dragged from before; the factor may be a self-esteem issue or that you are simply an introvert. That is why before trying any method, it is worth trying to find out what is the root of our shyness.



Shyness is treated with a series of therapies that usually have good results in the short and medium term, depending on the degree of shyness and the type of patient. Among the most effective we find ” cognitive behavioral therapy” ; This therapy ideally mixes cognitions and is basically aimed at changing some behaviors that are the cause of shyness, this therapy also uses some methods such as relaxation, behavior rehearsal, social exposure (gradual or forced), systematic desensitization, and paradoxical intention.

Another of the highly positive therapies that have quite a few good results in the short term is group therapy . This therapy is based on socialization, a primary factor that must attack shyness. This kind of therapy is highly recommended in children and adolescents, although it is not ruled out in older people.

Shyness is not always integral , that is, one is not shy with everyone or everything, but with some special factor. In these cases, a brief therapy with a lot of social exposure is recommended, to overcome shyness by focusing on the exact point.

Improve social skills

Often shyness is a lack of social skills, it is difficult to socialize or function in certain social settings. That is why overcoming or overcoming shyness is a matter of practice and improvement. For example, some men feel shy about communicating with women, but with gradual and guided contact, that social ability improves over time and shyness is set aside. As well as all the edges that shyness may have, even if it is a very stressed shyness.

In this method to overcome shyness, it is recommended to rehearse with people we trust with whom we do not feel shy, a friend or family member is very helpful in these cases. It is also possible to rehearse situations and ways of coping with shyness. It is very important to understand that this process should be gradual, since it is almost impossible to overcome shyness overnight; however with a little effort, patience and dedication; overcoming shyness is a matter of time.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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