We all love to experience good feelings above all, and happiness is something that everyone longs for. However, in our repertoire of sensations, emotions and feelings, it is necessary and essential to go through a multitude of states , both pleasant and unpleasant.

Many of the emotions that we experience as unpleasant have been called “negative emotions.” But are there really feelings, feelings and emotions that are negative?

If we understand something as negative, our natural tendency will be to reject it, and therefore we will not accept that state. This is one of the main problems so that we do not manage our emotions well .

Suppress or accept your emotions?

Without a doubt, in our society we have learned to repress the emotions that we find uncomfortable or we have labeled “negative”. It is natural if we have understood emotions from a perspective of good emotions, bad emotions. This way of seeing and understanding emotions is what makes us not know how to approach them and they end up controlling us.

For good emotional management, repressing emotions should not be an option. Emotional repression causes exactly the opposite of what we are looking for. These are some of the consequences of repressing emotions:

  • The emotions that we perceive as uncomfortable and unpleasant stagnate and do not flow into other states .
  • We hold thoughts that keep fueling these emotions that we don’t want to experience, getting into a hard loop to get out .
  • The more we reject something the more we think about it, and therefore the more it controls our lives .
  • By repressing we are stopping listening to our emotions that, above all, are adaptive and are giving us indications of something that is not working well.

Accepting your emotions implies giving them a space to listen and attend to them . In this way you will obtain valuable information to know yourself better, and know what your difficulties, discomforts, fears, etc. are.

What are the consequences of accepting your emotions?

The consequences in this case are very beneficial, by better understanding that your emotions are part of you, you will understand that they are neither positive nor negative , they are simply states of how you are under certain circumstances. There is nothing to repress, but rather we must attend, listen and understand.

These are some of the consequences of attending and accepting your emotions:

  • Better emotional management, so that emotions do not limit or hinder your experiences.
  • Self-acceptance, recognition and self-knowledge, which improves your self-esteem and security.
  • It allows you to better connect with yourself, in a more authentic and honest way.
  • Faced with adversity and difficult situations, you can learn from your experiences and, therefore , have greater personal growth.

Once you have accepted that you are responsible for the emotion you experience, then you are enriching your experiences, and you take charge of what you live at every moment.

Thus being the protagonist of your own life . It is at that moment, when you can decide what to do with each emotion and feeling that appears to you, no matter how unpleasant it may be.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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