When a person suffers from depression, they need the support of those closest to them, such as their partner, children or relatives, but especially the support of their partner is essential when suffering from depression . That is why we will show you some ways in which you can help you in your process.

Despite the social stigma that falls on it, depression is an illness like any other, characterized by a change in mood, behavior or way of thinking. Depression can damage the mental and physical functions of those who suffer from it.

As with other long-term pathologies, living with a person suffering from depression can be difficult if the environment does not have certain guidelines on how to behave or contribute to their improvement.

How to help your partner if they suffer from depression

The first step in starting to feel useful is accepting the ambivalence that you probably feel. You know you want to collaborate, but at the same time, you sometimes feel annoyed by their behavior: their apathy, their sadness, their lack of rationality and their constant catastrophic vision of the world.

It’s normal for you to have mixed feelings, and you don’t have to blame yourself for it . It is difficult to help someone who has little predisposition to be helped, and who does not even help himself. But this is part of the disease of depression .

Therefore, the first change you must make is in yourself, in your perspective. You can do a deep reflection exercise until you come to understand, in an empathic way, that your partner is going through an illness: he does not behave like that because he wants to, nor is he exaggerating, nor does he want to attract attention.

Those are prejudices that those of us who are not sick create without realizing it for just one reason: we are not in the shoes of the depressed person. It will not be easy for you to see the world from their eyes, because you are not sick.

But when you have finally been able to accept that difference, you will have taken the most important step.

Still, of course, you don’t want to sit idly by watching your partner suffer, even if you are able to understand it. You want to do something to help him feel better and get rid of that feeling of helplessness.

Well, there is no magic key to fighting the ghost of depression , but one of its greatest enemies is the so-called “social support.” Family, friends, partner, show love and support from close people.

5 ways to help your partner when they have depression

So, although not everything depends on you, you can be a very important element in their progress towards well-being.

1. Don’t blame

Do not blame her for her condition or demand that she improve faster.

2. Make her feel more than think

Don’t try to cheer him up using logical arguments. It is much more effective to approach him emotionally than rationally, since in those moments he will not be able to take these arguments into account and they may make him feel powerless by not being able to react to them.

Simply, when he wants to tell you how he feels, listen, understand as much as possible and, above all, show affection physically and verbally. A hug, a caress, a kiss or a smile at the right moment are therapeutic for the depressed person.

3. Show her that you are next to her

Show confidence in his recovery, help him comply with the treatment he is following. Or, if you haven’t already, consult a professional yourself.

You don’t have to do it secretly, but you don’t need their consent to ask for help if you know they need it.

4. Don’t downplay depression

Avoid downplaying the symptoms of depression . Hear how it feels. However, it is preferable that you set limits. It is not good for either of you to fall into a loop of repetitive complaints.

So if your partner enters it, let him know that you are going to cut it for the good of both and switch to a different topic. Repeat it as many times as necessary, as long as you have allowed him to express himself at least once before.

5. Avoid getting angry

Avoid anger, arguments and yelling as much as possible : they only feed the disease. Always try to speak calmly to him: that in your words, your tone of voice and your behavior you can perceive that background of positivity and confidence in the future, which is what your partner lacks.

When you’re not in the mood, better distance yourself. Change of scene, go for a walk, or better: go for a walk together.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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