Our dream as parents is to educate strong and intelligent children and for this we must promote the development of their emotional intelligence , that ability to know themselves and to relate appropriately with others. How to start? Teaching them to recognize their own emotions in order to manage them, a task in which we play a very important role as their role models.

When the child learns to think about his emotions and to identify how he feels in specific situations, both positive and negative, he develops his emotional strength.

Only when he has been able to name the different emotions he experiences will it be possible for him to be more sensitive and identify how others are feeling, what they are feeling and show empathy.

Accompany and build spaces of trust

For the child to develop their emotional intelligence, parents and teachers, we need to give them spaces of trust and security so that they can express, loudly and without fear, everything that makes them happy and also what worries, scares or is difficult to handle. It is up to us to accompany them and encourage them to persevere, helping them build their self-confidence.

Let us be by your side when something does not go well for you. Valuing your effort and not the result helps you develop a greater tolerance for frustration, handle situations of uncertainty, and act with determination and determination.

You will also learn to be more cooperative and optimistic and develop skills in making friends, solving problems, and making decisions.

Besides accompanying, what else can parents do?

There are several tips that can serve as a guide to know what are the aspects that you can improve or reinforce in the way you educate your children to promote emotional intelligence:

Be an example:

It is important to remember that our children learn by observing the behavior of adults, we are their role models and we will become important references in their lives.

Therefore, we must act by example and manage our emotions, express them appropriately, without harming others.

Practice observation and active listening:

When our children are expressing their emotions, it is important that we listen carefully and with interest in what they say. And then you got sad …

Help you identify and name emotions:

It is important for the child to learn the word related to each emotion he experiences: sadness, fear, joy, anger, frustration, etc. This way you can clearly express each one of them when you feel it. You threw the toy because you are angry, you have anger.

Guide you in finding solutions:

What could you do next time if that situation repeats itself? 

Give recognition:

Congratulate him and acknowledge his achievements, no matter how small . Well! Way to go !

Open communication spaces:

When, in your role as parent or teacher, you establish frank and open communication with the child and are aware of his concerns, then he, on his own initiative, will approach you to discuss the matter.

If you have a conflict with a friend, show your support, invite him not only to express his emotion, but also to think about how the other may feel.

Talking to the child and making him feel like a unique, wonderful and special being with his own preferences, tastes and needs, will make him a happy and balanced adult.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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