Many people have learned , due to difficult childhoods, dysfunctional families, highly competitive work environments, or traumatic events, that emotions are a vulnerability . They are a weakness, a dead end that takes time and energy from more productive activities, they are uncontrollable, never appropriate, and something to be rigidly controlled or avoided.

There are many ways to avoid facing our emotions. I mean, how many times have we heard, ” I’ll be fine as long as I have something to do to distract myself .” Well, your mind isn’t really the problem, is it? The idea is to use the mind as a means to occupy all of our attention and energy so that we cannot feel.

Why we tend to emotional illiteracy

All of this, whether it be anesthetizing our lives through alcohol or tobacco, or being severely practical, through work addiction or eating too much or too little, takes us away from our emotions as we become functionally illiterate with regard to our emotions. .

This is common for veterans returning from multiple tours of war zones or special forces in any capacity. Emotions, in addition to those very stunted forms, useful for unity of cohesion and the completion of a mission, are practically extirpated through training and experience. When they return to civilian life, many cannot simply reconnect with their emotions and move on.

They have no connection to the full spectrum of emotions and must relearn such simple things as the fact that they are experiencing an emotion, what the full spectrum of emotions is.

What is surprising is how many people who have never been to war have the exact same problems. They have suppressed their emotions for so long that they no longer recognize when they are having them or when they do they immediately deny them and replace them with something else.

Not recognizing emotions prevents us from freeing ourselves

Emotions are “your soul” that tells you about deep truths and contains amazing gifts of wisdom in them. The only way to receive these gifts and reach the truth is by feeling, not just reasoning.

Releasing emotions frees us

It is highly productive to stop being in a productivity program when an emotion arises because the emotion is going to offer more wisdom and well-being and health than any other project.

Emotions will lead you to release luggage, to solve mysteries, to illuminate the path you must follow and to learn what it means to live the life you deserve. So how do you access them? It is not necessary, they will have access to you. The idea is to stop blocking them through coping mechanisms and that means that the first sensation you will face is the one you know best: fear. Don’t worry, the only thing you have to fear is fear itself.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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