Emotional maturity refers to your ability to understand and manage your own emotions, giving you the ability to plan and develop the life that you have always wanted.

As an individual that you are, you have the right to define for yourself what is success, the ideal love, the perfect job, it is not society or others who will determine this, your emotional maturity will be measured according to your thoughts , your feelings and the behaviors that derive from them.

In the most difficult moments of your life, the most important factor that will determine your success and resilience will be your emotional maturity.

Emotional maturity does not necessarily go together with age , the maturity that we talk about in this article is related to the amount of experiences and learning that a person could face at a certain time in life, and how their life has been. internal process for managing, coding and learning from those meaningful experiences. Falling down and getting up, falling again and getting up again, this is the key to acquiring emotional maturity .

Characteristics of people with emotional maturity

Building a small list of indicators that a person with emotional maturity possesses can serve as a guide to recognize in others (friends, family or colleagues), those characteristics and at the same time so that we can determine how emotionally mature we can become , or how much way we still have to reach it.


You have the ability to see each situation in your life as unique, and you are flexible to adapt to them accordingly , for example if you lose your job, you will start a plan to find an activity that favors you and you will be able to change routines and customs until adapt.


You are responsible for your own life , you understand that the circumstances that surround your life now are nothing more than the consequences of the paths and decisions you have made up to now. If something goes wrong, do not rush to blame others, you will identify the possible causes, putting into action a plan to implement viable solutions and establish important changes.

You understand that vision trumps knowledge

You are clear that you do not need to know all the answers to the questions and that there will never be a single solution, if you can clearly identify the problem, the safest thing is that you can visualize a solution, and the way to put it into practice.

Personal growth

You understand the importance of acquiring skills and learning , that the time to do it is now, you are thirsty to learn and know. Learning and personal development activities will fill your schedule.

They look for alternative solutions

You recognize that the way of doing things can always improve, so you will voluntarily seek opinions, and points of view from other people. You will not feel any threat in the divergence of thought and if you evaluate your solution is better, you will have no difficulty in following your own way.

Lack of judgment towards others

In variety is taste, and it is because of variety that the world is more beautiful and interesting, even when others have different or contrary opinions, you will never feel the need to criticize them. Instead you will always respect the positions and beliefs of others.

The resilience

There will always be vicissitudes, sometimes things will go bad or very bad, as long as you can accept those disappointments, express your feelings and identify them, to plan the appropriate actions and move forward, you are showing emotional maturity .

A calm attitude

Faced with a problematic situation, you will almost always remain calm, you understand the importance of being calm in order to organize the actions to be taken. It’s hard to stay calm 100% of the time.

Realistic optimism

Do not live deceived you know that success takes time, a lot of work and patience, but you will always show an optimistic position in the face of the obstacles that life imposes on you, you also recognize that there are other opportunities that you are looking for.


You get along easily with other people and it feels comfortable to get close to you. Building relationships is not artificial; it is easy for you.


You believe in yourself, you enjoy when other people praise you and complement you, but you know that there will always be people who will not agree with you and who will disapprove of some things you do, you have the certainty that you are and what you do , if you think your way is the right then take it no matter what others think of you .


You don’t take everything personally, you have the ability to enjoy laughter even when you are the butt of the joke.

Emotional maturity allows you to take charge of your life. You have your own vision of what you want in life and your own ambition to achieve success. By focusing on the realization of your vision, you can create a happy and healthy life in which you respect yourself and others. As you develop emotional maturity, life becomes a pleasure and not a chore. Your happiness and satisfaction are in your hands. Emotional maturity does not evolve overnight. It takes effort, practice, and patience. If you can improve a little each day, you will soon live a happier, fuller life.

Dr. Eric Jackson

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses. He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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