Have you ever been around someone and immediately felt uncomfortable? Almost like they can see right through you? But then, in minutes, the person has disarmed you, and despite the initial feeling of discomfort, you become involved with them. Little by little, they seem to know exactly what needs to be said or done to tear down the wall. So, you let them in, telling yourself that there is nothing wrong. The dangerous people have this ability.
9 behavior patterns of dangerous people
They have a talent for bonding with people who have money, power, or influence. They do this to further conceal their betrayal. So when you find them, they look healthy and attractive, but it’s a trap that can cost you your sanity or your life.
Align and isolate
Dangerous people line up with your friends and family who are your people . They then share with their new acquaintances a “concern” about you in an effort to “help you.” This is usually done in secret so as not to “hurt you because they are worried about your reaction.” What a dangerous person has done with this is isolate you from talking to your people and getting help from someone other than them.
Encourage and alarm
A common tool is alcohol, however any addictive substance can be substituted, such as prescription drugs, video games, POT, or even spending money. When you are around dangerous people, they encourage addictive behavior and engage in unhealthy levels. But if you get into it without them (even at moderate levels), they declare that you are an addict that needs to be fixed.
A bad person faces and avoids
There is no reciprocal agreement for the confrontation. If the dangerous person confronts you, even if they do it incorrectly and mix it with abusive threats, you should take it as a token of love towards you. But if instead, you are the one who faces this person, even doing it calmly, the dangerous person turns off and is not ready to receive any criticism. Then they accuse you of being tough and loveless.
They illuminate and confuse
Dangerous people have a sixth sense about them. They can quickly assess a person for their vulnerabilities, strengths, and weaknesses. To gain confidence, they will expose a fraction of what they see, which takes your guard down. Once trust has been gained, the dangerous person attacks, which is so confusing and inconsistent with their previous behavior. Sensing your discomfort, they often accuse you of being “too sensitive.”
Calm and angry
A dangerous person has the gift of being calm on the outside while staying angry on the inside . There are no visible signs of their anger and, when confronted, they deny it, but the feeling of its intensity is unmistakable. When you say, “I see you are angry,” their natural inclination is to question your perception while asking for external evidence. Unable to produce any, the dangerous person says that you are “exaggerating.”
Dangerous people protect and harm
When a dangerous person sees that someone else has made you cry, they are quick to comfort you. They tend to be overly protective and make threatening comments to you about hurting the other person because they hurt you, but they rarely face the other person directly. But when the dangerous person is the source of your tears, they are cold and dismissive. She can hurt you, but others cannot.
Passive and controlling
Another behavior pattern for dangerous people is the ability to know when to engage in a power struggle and when to disconnect. Unlike dominant personalities who want to be in control all the time, they are willing to be submissive when it suits them. They do this to disarm you even more. However, they still have a lot of control even when passive and can instantly become dominant when they feel like they are losing power or influence.
Safe and unsafe
The mentioned techniques are done to give you the false perception of security when in reality the dangerous person is very insecure. Uncertainty often makes you feel like you can’t trust yourself, or worse, that you’re going crazy. You are not. Even when you can’t pinpoint a specific item as worrisome, just the feeling that something isn’t right is enough.
Most likely while in the middle of an encounter with a dangerous person, you will feel abused, but you will not have any evidence of the abuse. This is a strong indicator that you need to get away from them as soon as possible. Dangerous people cannot be “fixed” by someone else. They can only be fixed if and when they themselves see the harm they do to others. But this is extremely rare. Any changes must be tested by a professional.