Isolation and marginalization are some of the worst social situations a person could go through. The feeling that you are alone and being rejected , coupled with the total ignorance of the people you are trying to connect with, can cause a person to slip into deep anxiety and depression.

The feeling of being rejected generates anxiety and depression

The need for human acceptance is so powerful that it does not need to be proclaimed. It gnaws at the walls of a person’s heart, creating a sense of longing and a strong desire to be welcomed. The craving for belonging can be so strong that it will manifest itself physically, controlling all of your nerves and muscles until you feel a collapse.

The American psychologist Nathan DeWall, from the University of Kentucky , explains that the human body responds to rejection in the same way that it responds to pain. People who suffer constant rejection tend to be in poor health, and this problem should never be taken lightly.

“We must assume that everyone is going to experience rejection on a semi-regular basis throughout their lives,” he wrote in an article published in Current Directions in Psychological Science, Science Daily.

“A lot of times, people keep these things to themselves because they’re embarrassed or don’t think it’s a big deal. When people feel lonely, or when people feel left out or rejected, these are things they should talk about ”.

Feeling invisible to others creates pain

A cold response or too quick a handshake can make a person feel invisible or unimportant, and this has nothing to do with being overly sensitive or unnecessarily emotional. It is a common trait that every human being has, except for people who suffer from psychopathy.

When a person is in physical pain, the brain releases opioids to fill the spaces between neurons (synapses), thereby dampening the effect of pain and blocking signals.

A study conducted by the University of Michigan School of Medicine found that the brain reacts in the same way when a person experiences social rejection, attempting to block pain signals by releasing natural opioids.

A smile is sometimes enough to make a person feel accepted. You would be doing her a huge favor by teaching your kids to do something simple, like say hi to a new kid at school. Donating warm blankets to the homeless in winter is an act of kindness that can never be forgotten.

Talking to someone who seems lost and confused in a new environment can save you from extreme mental anguish. Simple acts of kindness and gestures of acceptance make the world go round.

The importance of being accepted

Such was the compelling story of Rachel Macy Stafford, best-selling author and principal contributor to the  Today Parenting Team . She inspired millions of people by recounting the lessons learned from her personal experiences.

Last year, Rachel enrolled her fifth-grade daughter in an extracurricular activity, and while learning how things worked at the activity center, she met other mothers who taught her how important it is to be accepted.

“On the first day, we approached two women who were waiting with their children for the activity to begin,” Rachel wrote. “I politely asked them a question about protocol and explained that we were new. I was met with annoying facial expressions and short answers. ”

Rachel no longer bothered to introduce herself. If they couldn’t answer their questions kindly, they certainly wouldn’t want to know who he was or what “hole he came out of.”

“The following week, I saw the women again in the waiting room. ‘Hi,’ I said warmly. ‘How are you two today?’ I mumbled responses and they immediately turned to each other and continued talking. My daughter and I talked to each other, which alleviated the painful sensation of feeling invisible. ”

Rachel wondered why she was being treated this way. I had no idea who the women were prior to that first day at the activity center. She had never done them wrong, so why did they decide to treat her like trash? Being rejected multiple times would lead anyone to renounce human hospitalization. Seclusion would start to seem like the best option at that point.

“I felt a twinge of something I couldn’t explain in my stomach. It wasn’t a pleasant feeling, maybe anxiety, embarrassment, discomfort? Whatever it was, that feeling made me feel like I didn’t want to try anymore. ”

Lessons left by marginalization and rejection

The mother of two did not have any feelings of resentment or hatred towards the other women. She avoided them in later meetings, but that was just to maintain her dignity and self-esteem. She explains that she felt gratitude towards them. Thank you for reminding you of one of the most important lessons in the world. Cruel treatment of people should not influence you to be cruel to others. Rather, you should learn from them the kind of person you would never want to be.

Rachel described some of the most important situations in which she would remember the humiliation these women put her through. Situations in which she would let her experience guide her in dealing with others.

Remember this when:

  • You are in a familiar space and someone new approaches you for guidance.
  • You see someone confused anxiously holding their own hand.
  • Someone comes up to you and asks you a question: acknowledge the bravery behind the words.
  • You see someone stop trying, maybe they have been rejected too many times.
  • You see that someone is being left out or alienated: only a friendly person can alleviate the painful sensation of feeling invisible. “

Be nice to everyone you meet. You may be in their position tomorrow, and even if that day never comes, being nice doesn’t cost a thing. You are happier, healthier, and more at peace with yourself when you radiate kindness.

Accept people who yearn for a sense of belonging and identity . Marginalization would only break the world and strain the essence of humanity. Spread love with the smallest gestures, the softest touches, and the warmest smiles.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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