No matter how much we think we have matured, life carries many hard truths , and no matter how much we want to run away from them, only by accepting them can we take full responsibility for our lives.

8 honest truths you need to hear if you want to grow up

You may already know some of them, but the ones you don’t may be a bit difficult to digest. Although you will very surely be grateful later. This is not intended to be a pessimistic speech about how hard life is. Rather, it is intended to motivate you to act armed with this knowledge.

1. You will regret how much time you spend on social networks

Social media is amazing, and anyone can be as addicted as you can be. But social media is also making us more disconnected than ever, giving us the illusion of a greater connection. Yes, we are able to communicate with thousands of people with ease, but how deeply?

It is a truth. Social media is robbing many of us of a real connection and real life experiences. Instead of looking at the world while walking somewhere or traveling by public transport, we return to what the digital world has to offer. If our level of addiction remains the same, things could get a little creepy, and this doesn’t even take into account the potential repercussions of so much exposure to technology.

2. Your reactions are the problem

Yes, bad things always happen. And it is often very difficult to have to go through or deal with those situations. But regardless of how challenging something is, it is always our reaction that will determine how much it will affect our lives.

We don’t like that it has to be this way, but it ‘s true: you decide how much someone’s bad opinion of you is going to make you feel insecure . Let your natural reactions kick in, but then consciously choose how long you want to let them impact everything else.

3. The riskiest thing you can do is avoid risks

Whether or not you consider yourself a risk seeker, there is nothing riskier than complacency. This does not suggest that you cannot get to a point where you are truly happy with your life and therefore simply want to maintain that lifestyle, what it really suggests is that never taking risks is a very dangerous thing.

Stop playing small if you know you want to play big, and stop saying to yourself “this is good enough” if you know deep down that you would love to do, create and have so much more. The cost of taking that risk is your long-term happiness.

 

4. You should always have enough money for the important things

“I would love to attend that seminar or buy that course that can change my life, but the money is too limited at the moment.” As true as this is, you should always have more than enough money to do the things that really matter.

The biggest hurdle is how we instead spend it on the things that we don’t. We don’t consider buying a $ 7 coffee daily as a major investment, but we think too much and consider spending a few hundred dollars on something “life changing” to be the big deal. It is not that we start spending recklessly, or never indulge ourselves, but rather that we reassess how we currently spend our money.

5. People will hate you no matter what you do.

It is one of the truths that it sounds very ugly to say . You can try and please people your whole life, but whatever happens, some people will always dislike you. So instead of wasting time trying to be what you think is most acceptable and please everyone, spend that time accepting exactly who you already are.

6. Blaming only makes you weaker

In the moment, unfairly directing blame towards one circumstance or another person may seem reassuring, but in the long run it really takes a toll. The less you take responsibility for your actions and decision making, the weaker you will become mentally.

We don’t like to hear these kinds of truths, but taking responsibility can have some immediate repercussions, and over time build a life based on honesty and strengthen your ability to face challenges when they arise.

7. People don’t think of you as much as you think they do.

From our perspective, the whole world revolves around us, but there are 7 billion people who see this in the same way. While we are not all inherently selfish or self-obsessed, we are all far more concerned with how we are perceived by others than with how we perceive them.

So once again, embrace your true self and find peace knowing that people are too preoccupied with themselves to give you the attention that you think they do.

8. Not even the perfect relationship will complete you

There are long-lasting romantic relationships that are to be admired. But even they, who seem to have found their “soul mate”, recognize that true happiness comes from within and can never be filled by another. Relationships are an extension of our happiness and not the foundation of it, so focus on strengthening both your soulmate and yourself.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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