We are in times where everything is lived faster and therefore stress is experienced daily. The demands are in absolutely all areas of life and therefore, it is more difficult to handle the stress that this generates. However, there are people who can do it, they have the privilege that they never get stressed or at least, in an easy way, as most of us do, no. They are resilient people.
Most experts agree: we are working longer, harder, and less efficiently. Part of the reason for this inefficiency is the prevailing belief that hustle equals productivity. Here’s a perfect example: Most workplaces give their workers two 15-minute breaks to use during the day. Never mind that most experts are adamant that the brain needs a break every hour, not every 4.
The workplace, although arguably the most important source of stress in society on a day-to-day basis, is not the only factor. As we’ve already mentioned, money, relationships, traffic, current events, lousy people, and outright bad luck all contribute to the stress epidemic facing much of the world.
But did you know that some people can withstand almost any storm and be made worse by wear and tear? These people have incredible resilience and are called resilient . The American Psychological Association (APA) defines resilience as:
“The process of coping well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress, such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or stressors in the workplace, and financial ”.
Resilience, in other words, is “bouncing” off stressful experiences.
Habits of resilient people
How can some people fall deep and get back up? How come they are not overwhelmed by stress or despair?
It is all thought. “He is capable of thinking that he is capable.” ~ Buddha
Low-resilience people think that their inherent personalities are fixed, which is also known as a “fixed mindset.” The resistance of those who discourage stress comes from a growth mindset. How do you cultivate this state of mind? Through routine behaviors or habits. Here are eight such practices:
1. They have a support system
“No person is an island.” It is essential to understand that resilience can be derived from internal and external. In other words, personality (habits, mindset, etc.) is not the only factor.
People who avoid being overwhelmed by stress rely on all the tools and methods available; including family and close friends. Without a strong support system, many resilient people would have a much harder time maintaining their equanimity.
2. They don’t do drama
Gossipers and “drama queens” create a toxic environment (read: tons of stress) wherever they go. People who avoid stress ignore these people, and they do better.
Have you ever met a resilient drama queen? If so, they are probably not as optimistic as you think. Gossip and drama deplete the energy resilient people need to move forward; therefore, they avoid them like pests.
3. They always improve
People who avoid excessive levels of stress are some of the most successful because they allocate their time and energy to improving themselves. These resilient souls know and accept that they are not close to perfect, and they use self-improvement as a way to give them an advantage.
People who roll with blows don’t necessarily avoid being hit, they just know how to absorb the blow and continue the fight.
4. Manage energy proactively
Optimistic personalities know each other very well. They understand that energy is a finite resource and they manage that energy proactively.
They can read a book instead of going out because there is a difficult day ahead; Or maybe they’ll sleep an extra hour, eat a smaller meal, and do a quick workout. In short, they know what needs to be done and make sure it includes “getting up and going” when the time comes.
5. Resilient people know their “Why?”
Knowing your “why” behind everything you run makes stressful situations much easier to handle. People who recover from challenges easily always seem to have a goal, personal, professional, or otherwise, that they are actively working on. And when times get tough, as they inevitably will, the resilient person remembers his “Why?”
6. Strengthen your weaknesses
The Resilient people are just that: people; people with strengths and weaknesses, like everyone else. However, people who “don’t throw in the towel” actively work to improve their weaknesses, which is the opposite of today’s “multiply your strengths and forget your weaknesses” attitude in society.
7. They are highly self-aware
Self-awareness is about helping us get in touch with our psychological and physiological needs: understanding what we need, what we don’t need, and when is the time to ask for help. They’re great for listening to and following the subtle stress signals your body and mind give off – the heart of self-awareness.
8. They practice acceptance
Stress and pain are part of life. As with any event, emotional or not, stress and pain come and go. Fighting stress or pain, rather than ignoring or suppressing it (which never works), is a lot
“You have power over your mind, not over external events. Realize this, and you will find strength. “~ Marcus Aurelius.