A “forced relationship” is when two people are simply tired of each other, but still do not want to break the relationship, this could be due to a number of reasons. This is a relationship that usually drags on for a long time and begins to project a lot of negative energy.

How to understand that you live in a forced relationship and do not realize it

Any happy and strong relationship can end up being a forced relationship if all the triggers are met. Now we are going to mention the signs that can warn you if you are slowly falling into a forced relationship. Let’s start.

1. They don’t think about a future together

When you are serious with someone, you tend to take all the positive steps towards a bright and happy future together. You tend to plan and set goals for the future in order to achieve the future you want with your partner. But when someone is in a forced relationship, they don’t really think about a future with their partner, so they just don’t plan or worry about it. In their minds, true happiness is when they are alone.

2. Lies are normal in these relationships

Lies cannot be justified and should not be allowed in a relationship, you simply cannot do it with someone you love because it is a way to betray their trust. But when people are in a forced relationship, it no longer feels bad to lie. This is because you are not really worried about them finding out the truth later because you are not really afraid of a breakup and you are way past that point.

3. When you imagine a breakup, it doesn’t seem so difficult

Breakups are difficult for people who for various reasons cannot stay together but who have a lot of esteem and things in common. But by the time a breakup seems easy, it’s likely a badly damaged relationship already. When you’re in a forced relationship, the thought of splitting up doesn’t really give you that much distress. This happens when two people are so fed up with themselves that they prefer to face the temporary pains of parting rather than creating permanent sadness by being together.

4. The fights are constant and there is no respect

When two people care about each other, they are very careful with their words and actions because they don’t want to hurt each other. But when two people are in a forced relationship, they tend to pick the strangest fights almost on a daily basis. The fights become part of the relationship, because even that is what they have the most in common: the desire to argue regardless of reaching any agreement. Almost daily discussions can take place about the most insignificant of things.

5. They can spend time without seeing each other without any problem

This happens in forced relationships, people want to spend as much time as possible apart, although not completely, of course. They just want to avoid any negativity and they want to be at peace for a while. For people who are truly in love, spending time apart can become challenging, but the same does not apply to people in forced relationships. The level of interest also begins to decline, leading to a lack of effort on the part of the people involved, and they end up spending less time together, and curiously, they feel better alone than in the company of their partner.

6. You find yourself thinking of other people

When a person is unhappy with the partner he has, he begins to look for other sources of love and happiness, so he begins to think of other people more than his partner. In most infidelities it is the lack of love and commitment that has led the person to be unfaithful, and not the fact of being something fortuitous that happens without prior notice, since the person who commits the infidelity in advance she is prepared to be unfaithful or has serious doubts about her relationship, so as to be able to be attentive to other people and “casual affairs.”

7. You no longer talk about your feelings

When you are in a forced relationship, you would avoid talking about your feelings more and more. The idea of ​​”speaking” or “speaking from the heart” will actually scare you because you know that you will not be heard and your emotions will be ignored.

This also leads to another gap, a gap of isolation. It is always recommended to maintain a very open level of communication, it is vital for the health and well-being of every relationship, but this is lost in a forced relationship and that is why forced relationships are the weakest of all .

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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