Being generous is a wonderful trait that a person can have, but at times, it can be exhausting or even give to those who do not deserve it. When you really care about the happiness of others, it’s easy to lose sight of your own happiness. Then something happens that is known (and felt) like giving too much. You may have good intentions, but if you’re not careful, you will end up losing yourself by being too generous to others.

Here are seven signs you’re giving too much

Here are some clear signs that may reveal that we are giving too much and that may be holding us back more than our share, or we may even be being manipulated to keep things under control.

1. You feel like you are being manipulated

If you suspect that you are being manipulated , you probably are. Someone who is manipulating you may say things to activate your guilt in order to get what they want. Trust your instincts and be clear about when it’s time to cut back.

2. Your help is unsustainable

If your “give and give” has reached the point where you no longer have enough resources for yourself, there is a serious problem. If your own physical or mental health, self-esteem or financial well-being is suffering and being affected, you are giving too much and should stop before it is too late.

3. Your relationships are affected

While healthy generosity can allow relationships to flourish, giving too much  is one of the causes of relationships to deteriorate. When there is no balance between giving and receiving, one or both may have feelings of resentment, guilt, or regret that can cause conflict and damage in the relationship.

4. You are supporting someone

If your attitude of giving has reached the point of allowing someone to ” live at your expense ” as the popular saying is, now is the time to take a step back. Allowing another person to remain physically unhealthy, irresponsible, or totally dependent on you is not doing anyone any good in the long run. If you are supporting someone, you are undoubtedly giving too much and must stop.

5. You feel like they are being taken advantage of

It might take a while to realize when someone is taking advantage of you, but the moment you realize it you should stop them and walk away from them. Someone who uses your kindness and generosity for their own personal gain is not someone who should remain in your life.

6. Your one-time offer has become a long-term obligation

Being generous once can lead to a vicious cycle for those who want to abuse your kindness. If your one-time useful offer has somehow become a long-term obligation, and that you did not intend to do so, remember that you have not committed to anything long-term and that you have every right. to stop when you want.

7. You always sacrifice something

If you are constantly sacrificing your own happiness to make others happy, you are giving too much. Taking care of other people is a wonderful thing. But taking care of yourself is as important as that, it is even the main thing.

If you have the knowledge that some of these points that were described can be adjusted to you, it is time to evaluate what it is that drives you to want to give more than your share and what you want to get out of it. Many people who are taken advantage of will not know how to say “enough is enough” and perhaps in the long run you will end up ruined without having focused on your own well-being and survival.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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