Having a child is for many the greatest responsibility we can have in life. Are we all ready to have a child? Clearly not, and just wanting is never enough. Although it is an innate instinct, our society is so different from the natural environment that we need to ask ourselves a series of fundamental questions so as not to regret it in the future, both for our well-being and, above all, for that of our child.

Questions to ask yourself before having a child

The five questions we ask you are just a small sample of all the questions we should ask ourselves. Having a child is a serious enough matter that we do not skimp on doubts and opinions:

Can we financially afford to have a child?

The uncomfortable question, but always necessary. It is a bad idea to have a child if our resources do not allow it. We can know cases where they manage to get ahead no matter how difficult it seems from the outside, even people who have done it against all odds, but what they usually do not count are the bad moments, the hopelessness of living day by day looking at each coin. A child is a constant source of expenses, impossible to predict where all the money will quickly turn around him.

Are we emotionally prepared?

Having a positive frame of mind is mandatory if we are going to take care of a child. Children, especially in the early ages, are emotional reflections of our feelings. If they see us depressed they will also feel that way, just as if we suffer anxiety or fear about the problems that surround us. Finding ourselves emotionally perfect is impossible, but we must have the security of knowing how to control ourselves when we are in the most difficult moments.

Are we slaves to our vices?

Tobacco, alcohol, poor diet, terrible habits that many of us have and that we are not aware of despite the negative impact they have on our lives. Like emotions, the behaviors we do are displays for our children. We may think that with words we can explain to them not to do what we do, but it is the idea that we establish that it is not so bad when we are doing it ourselves. If we also give it that prohibited point, we will only make it more and more attractive to them, becoming one of the biggest problems we will have in the future.

Is our life a constant source of stress?

Stress for many is the most common symptom of our times. If we live in constant stress we will only be able to increase it by having a child. There is no more effective formula for entering depression than adding the responsibility of caring for a child when we are already loaded with problems in life. It is recommended that we do an exercise of sincerity with ourselves, does our professional career absorb us? Do we have an intense social life? Are we responsible for more people? All of these are difficulties that will prevent us from enjoying our child.

Do we have a stable relationship situation?

Many couples use the idea of ​​having a child as a sign of everything they love, being a serious mistake in most cases. We must ask ourselves if our partner has the same perspective as we regarding the idea of ​​being parents. It is better to be honest with each other, where if one is not yet prepared for the responsibility of caring for a child, they can say so without fear of the consequences. If we go for it not to lose our partner, we will only manage to make our son suffer over time, seeing the bad atmosphere at home for not having spoken properly at the time.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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