When it comes to finding a meaningful relationship to which you can dedicate all your love and time as well, it is necessary to behave and act in such a way so that the other person appreciates the potential of a future together. It is also necessary to keep your feet on the ground and be clear that certain people or situations we cannot accept in order to want to form a long-term relationship and make it work.

Many times we are too attentive to others, and we neglect what behaviors and actions really represent ourselves, and what is the image that we are giving to others, is the one that opens the door to us to be able to specify relationships that are really fruitful and durable.

It is not necessarily about having bad or inappropriate behaviors, but there are definitely some behaviors that can repel anyone, especially those that make us see demanding, anxious and dependent on the other person, these attitudes can cause rejection and be tedious. However, there are many other behaviors and bad decisions that can prevent us from finding a serious and lasting relationship.

Behaviors that prevent finding relationships that work

The next time you decide to try proposing someone on a date, try to avoid these five types of behaviors and take a good look at your decisions.

1. Trying to form a relationship with someone who still has an unfinished relationship

This is probably one of the hardest things to cope with, and in most cases it ends shortly after starting.

People who are in an unfinished relationship are not truly open to a new relationship, and in any case, they will not have their attention entirely on their new partner .

It is also about respect and giving time, if they really want to be together, they must first finish what each one started, and once free and alone, be able to live a relationship without fear, cheating or conflict with third parties.

In general, a person who has not finished with his partner, and is already looking for someone else, could try again with someone else in his future, so you should consider it before blindly getting into such a relationship and even more so if you are looking for something stable, serious and durable.

2. Have very low self-esteem

The low self – esteem is usually one of the many problems that people have when trying to get a date , however, if you do not love yourself, how can you expect someone else loves you?

The more able you are to find out what happiness means to you and to be able to make yourself happy without depending on anyone, the closer you will be to finding someone who wants to share their happiness with you.

Otherwise, a person with zero self-esteem and self-love will be focused on getting someone to help him get out of the well, who gives him reasons to be happy and who makes him feel loved, but that generates dependent relationships, not relationships based on love , where both must share their happiness, not come to the rescue all the time because one of them does not love himself.

3. Excessive negativity

If you are someone who cannot find the bright side of literally nothing at all, then you shouldn’t be surprised as to why you can’t find someone who can fall in love with you.

Nobody wants to be around someone who is only going to point out the negative and obvious things in the world. You have to be willing to be really happy and show that happiness to the other, at least have a positive rather than a negative balance, people like you, and it also helps you attract people like you.

4. Have unrealistic aspirations

This is often the case as to why people have a hard time finding love. Of course, we all have a certain image in our head as to what the person we will fall in love with will be like.

However, you can’t keep these unrealistic expectations with everyone you meet, simply because people aren’t perfect, nor can they perfectly fit anyone’s stereotypes.

Try lowering some of your standards at least a little bit. There is great potential in random people that you have never seen before, why not give them and give yourself the opportunity to meet them, without expecting anything in return, you will see that you can be surprised.

5. Break commitments

Knowing someone for real, something that usually happens long after the first date, and even after several conflicts and setbacks, shows us how human that person is and when we can love him as he is. However, if every time we realize that someone is not perfect as we imagine, we already throw in the towel and look for another candidate, it is very likely that we will repeat the same story over and over again.

Each person who comes our way will bring their own luggage, and it could even teach us a lot about ourselves if we are willing to spend time together with someone in truth. But there are no rules, and you will always be free to choose what is best for you.

It is necessary that we learn to love ourselves before trying to love others, and it is also very necessary to recognize our failures and demands, and many times a partner is the best mirror to truly know each other.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses.He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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