Fighting or arguing is something we’ve all done at some point. In fact, it is very human to do so and there is no reason to feel bad about it. According to many social experts, arguing can really be a great means of honest communication. The key is choosing not only your battles, but also when to fight them. Important Tip: Don’t fight when you are angry . Here are 5 key reasons.

4 reasons not to fight when you are angry

It is difficult, but it can and not only that, it will save you time, energy and the loss of valuable relationships. Are you an explosive person who easily argues while angry and wants to change it? Be sure to read these 4 tips that will help you move to the next level.

Anger warps your perception

Anger makes you perceive everything around you as more threatening. This is compounded by the fact that when you get angry, people tend to act on their initial perceptions.

So when you are really angry and decide to have an argument, it is much more likely that you will not only perceive everything that your “opponent” does, as more threatening than it is, but that you will also respond in the same way.

[irp posts = ”192 ″ name =” 25 characteristics of mentally strong people ”]Of course, this perception-warping effect applies to both, so your opponent in turn will perceive your retaliation as much more threatening than you intend.

If the situation is not a matter of life and death, you should really slow down and think when you are angry.

It will create more problems

Letting someone know that you are angry with them is not the worst thing that can happen, but only if you do it in the context of letting them know that you would like to talk about it after things have calmed down a bit.

Before trying to solve the problem, take time to calm down. As you do so, you are likely to realize that your anger has more to do with you than the person you are angry with.

If you skip this vital step and go straight to arguing, you will only bring more baggage and frustration to the situation.

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You are going to waste time and energy

Let’s say you ignore the two points above and decide to have a long discussion while angry. How does that discussion end?

They will most likely talk until both of you are calm or a storm has set in, only to meet again when they are calm and ready to really settle what they were discussing in the first place.

In either scenario, you’ve just wasted considerable time and energy. Instead, why not take that time and do something productive like practicing an anger management strategy?

This will help broaden your understanding of yourself and equip you with positive methods of expression. That sounds so much better than ending up drained and wondering where the hell 2 hours of your life went.

He will say things that you will later regret

Turning yourself into a loose explosive while very angry is to be expected. In fact, we’ve all fought in ways where malicious verbal projectiles are suddenly too easy to pull out. Let’s face it, even in the best of friendships, those projectiles tend to lie deep in people’s brains, why give them a chance to get out?

Instead, walk away with the intention of getting back into the conversation. You could save yourself months of regret.

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses. He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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