It is very likely that on your way you have run into toxic people, bad friends or even a couple who played tricks on you, and in general, these people tend to have very similar ways of manipulating, in this article we are going to try to clarify some of these behaviors in order to be attentive and avoid being manipulated by toxic people .
What makes the presence of these toxic characters even worse is that many times we are not able to realize how they have interfered in our development, or perhaps we will know when it is too late.
Manipulative ways of toxic people
It can even be a person who has become very close to us, such as a co-worker, a partner, or one of your best friends. These people have a variety of manipulation techniques that they use to maintain control of your life. However, being aware of some of their tactics might make it easier for you to avoid them and not be duped, thereby freeing you from their manipulative spell. Let’s take a look at some of the modes most popular handling of toxic people .
1. They find a way to make you feel guilty
You can try to be as tough as you can, but these toxic types will find a way to put the blame on your back.
When you tell a toxic person some criticism or try to make them understand that something was wrong, they are prone to respond in a bad way since they consider it an attack and are unable to reproach themselves or admit that they were wrong . You could start to feel like in an infinite game of hot potato throwing the guilt back and forth without reaching any point of agreement, just a wear in which these people know how to move perfectly and it benefits them.
2. They say they already knew what was going to happen
Another form of manipulation used by toxic people in their attempt to manipulate a situation is to try to convince you that they have it all figured out and under control. Everything you do has just become so predictable to them, and they love this sense of power.
When they start saying things like ” I knew you were going to say that “, ” I don’t know why it would surprise me “, they are trying to find a way to get into your head without using any reasoning or logic, proving that they are the that they send.
3. They like to confuse others
This tactic seems to be a favorite among toxic people to avoid questions they don’t want to answer. For this, long complex answers are usually given that end up confusing, instead of giving the answer to what has been asked. One way to detect that they are using confusion as a means of evasion is to pay attention to what they say, if their topic is very complex and varied, without any relation to what has been questioned, it is very likely that they are deliberately confusing for get away from giving an answer to a specific issue.
4. They put everything in doubt ( gaslighting)
The process of manipulating another person to the point where they begin to question their sanity, and even their own rights, is known as gaslighting and comes in three different stages.
The toxic person begins by doing something to put their victim in an uncomfortable situation, known as the stage of disbelief , in order to put them into the stage of disbelief.
Once the victim reacts to this unusual behavior, the toxic individual will often tell them that they are ” acting crazy ” or in a very emotional way. If this manipulative technique is performed for a certain time, the victim will really start to believe that they are acting very emotional and crazy, which ultimately leads to the depression phase, and is just what the toxic person wants to achieve.