Have you ever thought about emotional ties ? We can be addicted to a certain substance or behavior. But can we be addicted to an emotion? The essence of this is: We experience negative events; we interpret them and then create a general rule that shapes our perception. The result is an addiction to one of three emotions: anger, fear, or sadness. In other words, we see the world through the lens of this emotion.
We experience a range of negative emotions, but they seem to come from one of three main categories: Anger, fear, and sadness. Addiction is often associated with excessive and harmful behavior or substance abuse. The word addiction evokes weakness and dependence. And the same can be said about emotional addiction.
Emotional addictions not only color our world with their nuances, but they can also be our crutch. They create a familiar framework for our lives. And in the process, it stops us and forces us into a relentless bond of painful feelings and reactions. Therefore, it is crucial for our mental and emotional well-being, to examine how we feel most of the time and to evaluate our negative emotional dependency.
3 steps to be free from emotional ties
And so, here are 3 steps to heal emotional ties and why it is so important.
1. Eliminate distractions
Television, radio, magazines, and social media sites (which don’t teach you anything) are emotional ties and are there to keep your mind immersed in your body . These mediums want you to continue the cycle of thinking in a certain way, making you feel a certain way, chained in a feedback spiral of negativity.
Think about your favorite song and how it makes you feel (song that generates anger, fear or sadness). Each song emits an emotion within you, this emotion is caused by a memory, the memory produces a thought and the thought generates a feeling. All of this is a great illusion that keeps you from realizing that you are a conscious creator. It keeps your mind immersed in your thinking and feeling body and the cycle continues. This is the primary purpose of the media. In fact, it is the number one sales strategy.
The more you engage in this cycle, the longer it will take to overcome your own emotional addiction to the pain and suffering that you are experiencing.
2. Give it the attention it needs
It is common in hurtful situations to try to avoid pain and drown out memories. But stifling memories will cause them to manifest negatively, wreaking havoc on other aspects of our lives. This is the number one reason why undergoing inner child inner healing is essential.
By accepting our pain and bringing our memories into conscious awareness, they can be healed. When we can embrace our pain, then we can empower our own growth. We grow more through difficult experiences, so it is essential to embrace that as well as possible. So sit with yourself, understand yourself, understand why you feel what you feel, understand your pain, and don’t try to put on a false mask.
3. Consciousness
Once you have embraced your pain, now is the time to release the negative thought pattern and the way to do this is by understanding this.
Every time we have a thought we create a chemical in the brain and therefore create a chemical reaction. Like physical addictions, we can become dependent on chemical reactions in our own bodies and get used to feeling a certain way based on how we think.
This is why, when you are stuck in negative thought patterns, it is as difficult to break as a physical addiction. Our bodies become dependent on the chemicals that we have created. When you are aware of this function, you can determine your course of action, and break the emotional bond.
By consciously changing the way we think, we can reorient a self-destructive thought and create new and more positive chemical reactions in the body, this way emotional attachments will not be so easily anchored in our life.