A stable relationship can have ups and downs and navigate different paths throughout its existence, however, the flame of love can be diminished when the previous stages have been consummated, such as conquest, play, desire and intrigue. for meeting someone new.

Some people think that living as a couple is the last step they have to take in a relationship and once it is achieved, nothing more is necessary. Yet why do we sometimes feel drowned within ourselves? Because we have forgotten that a relationship is built day by day and that love is a feeling that needs to be cultivated .

How to keep the flame of love alive

Here are 10 tips to keep the flame of love alive:

1. Take care

If before living as a couple you took care of your health and treated your appearance with care, are you going to stop doing it now? Love is much more than pure physicality and it is normal that over time wrinkles and other consequences appear over the years, but that does not prevent you and your partner from continuing to feel attracted to each other and that you should try to stay healthy and take care of your physical appearance.

2. Do not leave for tomorrow …

You get up, make breakfast, dress the children to go to school, then to work … when you want to realize it is already night, you are in bed and you may not have even shared a couple of affectionate words with your partner. Don’t put off your loving comments or your intimate moments until tomorrow. Every day counts, every little gesture is important, never skimp on an “I love you” or consider it a waste of time to say goodbye with a kiss.

3. Don’t accumulate problems

It is much better to talk about things right when they happen. Every situation that bothers you is accumulating in your head, and keeping quiet is only going to make you explode at a certain moment and express your frustration in the worst way, and as a consequence, you will have lost the opportunity to solve problems in a healthy way. constructive.

4. Don’t stop doing what you like

Living as a couple does not mean that you do not have your own life. The things that you liked before, if they are compatible with your current situation, will continue to make you happy. In addition, keeping each one their private life helps to break with the routine and always have something to talk about.

5. Express your needs

We all like to be surprised and our partner anticipates what we want. But if that’s not the case, shutting up and bothering you isn’t going to help. If you don’t want to be very clear, you can always resort to hints, but in general, if there is something you lack, material or emotional, communicate it as soon as possible.

6. Enough of routine

When all the days seem the same, the months (or the years) accumulate and we do not notice the passage of time. You don’t have to constantly organize something complicated and expensive, sometimes the little details are what make our day . An unexpected call with no other reason than to say that they miss you, a flower next to a message next to the bed … these little gestures are what keep love alive.

7. Accept as they are

Sure there are many behaviors of your partner that you do not like at all, things that you would change and others that you would rather not do. But do not forget that this feeling can be reciprocal, so it is best that you understand the reasons why it acts like this and learn to accept it as it is. Trying to change a person, in addition to being selfish, can be very negative for the relationship.

8. The ideal love

Demystify a bit what you understand by ideal love. Your prince charming (or your princess in his castle) is not waiting for you, in fact, he may exist only in your imagination. If you are with a person you like and the affection is mutual, you have a huge treasure. Don’t let it go just because you think there is someone better somewhere.

9. Take the initiative

Sometimes, because of the unexpected or simply because we like it, receiving a show of affection can change our day. Knowing that we have next to us a person who cares about us, who thinks of us and who wants to make us happy is the most important thing. Do the same, anticipate your partner and surprise her.

10. Nothing is forever

Or if? In any case, forcing the situation is not going to lead you to live forever with your partner. Do not start a relationship thinking that it will last forever, if it has to be like that, you will find out when the time comes. In the meantime, live, share and enjoy your relationship as a couple, which will ultimately be valuable and lasting if both of you aim for the same common destiny and wish to grow together.

Dr. Eric Jackson

By Dr. Eric Jackson

Dr. Eric Jackson provides primary Internal Medicine care for men and women and treats patients with bone and mineral diseases, diabetes, heart conditions, and other chronic illnesses. He is a Washington University Bone Health Program physician and is a certified Bone Densitometrist. Dr. Avery is consistently recognized in "The Best Doctors in America" list.

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