Divorce can also bring us some redeemable things, which in the end can be very useful in the face of new relationships. Life is a set of experiences and divorce, whether we like it or not, is an intense experience, which we can take advantage of. That is why we have compiled the lessons you learn after divorce that you can use on your new dates.
Recognize the (bad) signs
Your position gives you a better perspective of people and especially of a future partner, you easily recognize those little signs that in the end describe a whole body. If he treats the waiter badly or doesn’t like children, he is probably not someone who treats his partner well, and may not be the right person for you.
You follow your instinct
Now you are more sensitive and take into account your feelings, your hunches and your instinct more. Now your heart and your reason play as a team and have a voice and vote before a possible future partner.
Betting on a reciprocal relationship and agreements
All relationships must be mutual, even more so, relationships as a couple, you have already learned that lesson well. You will not tolerate giving more than you receive, this time you will seek reciprocity and mutual respect.
To err is human
It is already clear to you that people are wrong and human failures are just that. Now it is easier for you to forgive and move on, you will no longer get involved in trifles and you know how to forgive yourself in the face of experiences that you did not know how to handle.
You are not so hard on yourself
Time and experience have taught you that you shouldn’t be hard on yourself, that you are sensitive and often emotional, but that you can move on no matter what happens. You learn to be a better person.
You have more security
Now you know that not everyone will fall for your sensuality, that you will not always be a winner or winner, that sometimes you will be rejected and it will be fine. You learn to handle failure and resolve negative situations faster to turn the page and get on with your life.
Not everything is what it seems
As ideal as something or someone may seem, you know that not everything is what it seems. You learn to see beyond what is seen on “paper.” What is seen is no longer enough, but what it really is, or what can become aglo.
You do not ignore feelings (neither yours nor others)
This time you know that behind each person there are feelings, which should always be taken into account, without forgetting those that you might have. Learning to handle the situation more tactfully so that no one gets hurt is one of the lessons that having had a relationship that failed in the past can give you.
You handle disappointment better
Expectations will always follow every time you meet someone, and disappointment will come many times. But this time you will be able to handle disappointment better , it will not be a drama and you will come out of it quickly.
Words mean nothing without actions
Although it sounds like a very simple premise, many times inexperience or feelings make us value words even though they are not accompanied by acts that endorse them. Now you know well that words do not mean anything without actions, as simple as that.